Glad you found something that helped (Modafinal) but tell your hubby to get that vasectomy asap because Adderall can diminish in effectiveness over time unless you take regular vacations from it and/or increase the dosage.
Modafinal is a dream to stop and start but Adderall is not.
Also (excuse me for budding in but) make sure your hubby does a seminal fluid check AFTER (don’t remember how long) the vasectomy to make sure the vasectomy actually worked.
You’re on your way! It’s a process but it’s wonderful to hear that you’ve had early success with treatment. Build on it.
Sending cyber/masked/no touch hugs!